When you contact someone for the first time, it will be a bit clumsy. You are a stranger. The best thing to do is look through his profile and see if she writes about anything you know. If she was in a place you've been, or drink a wine you know, or played a sport that you have, talk about it.
1) Start by saying "Hi, my name is ____, how are you?"
2) Take a maximum of 3-4 subjects to talk about what you might have in common and write short paragraphs 3-4. Everything is too much, and least of May and you end up with nothing in common.
3) Make sure it is a balanced debate. You should make a few comments on what you are talking about the subject, and then ask questions - not questions with a yes or no, but open questions, which could kickstart a conversation
4) Make sure you praise its exactly twice in the e-mail (see how it is scientific?), Once and for his appearance (hopefully, it will be a real comment), and once for his bravery / ability to do everything she wrote. Any more than that praise is sycophantic. When you praise for his pace, common sense - stick to the eye, smile, hair, etc., not that you're not supposed to notice date until 3 or later.
5) Close the message saying that you hope that you will hear soon son.
What if the person you contact does not write much of substance in its profile, which gives you little idea of what to write her? You can not really write "It's fantastic that your family! Me too!". You could go through its mechanical check box options of interest to ask questions about some of interests, she checked, but often it is not really interested in the things she checked. In such situations it is better to use a form letter - a paragraph describing what you want about her (on the basis of what you know little son!), A paragraph calling it generally likes to do for fun (and describe a little more about you), And a paragraph calling on his work (while describing your just a little). This can really be a form letter - if it does not give you anything specific to write, you really do not have many options in contact with it. It's sad to say, but my experience, form letters are not much more a response rate individualized letters that - if she likes your photo and your work and your size, it will respond, otherwise it will not be .
In a lot of ways, online dating doesn't differ that much from offline dating. Peoples personalities are equally as apparent in the online dating world as they are in 'real life' (whatever that is!). If someone is shy or lacks confidence in the real world, the chances are that they will be online too.
Once your wingman has done his job and you've attracted the attention of the person you're interested in, you've got to decide what to say to them. Avoid the temptation of creating a template and cutting and pasting it to everyone. The other person will guess that's what you've done and probably not be interested. Make the message personal. Let them know that you've taken the time to read their profile. Perhaps comment on one of their interests or their job or their schooling. Don't write something bland like "you have nice teeth" or "your hair looks like it smells nice" otherwise you'll be consigned to the trash bin and forever marked as a loony!
The sad truth is that most large people face the same stumbling blocks dating back to you. They probably tried the bar scene and got tired of it or just decided he was not sure all. Maybe they have suffered a terrible blind dates, too. So what is there left? You can keep your fingers crossed and hope that you bump into someone special coffee corner, but the odds are against you.
